I received the below comment last night and although I believe she meant no harm, I wanted to address this as a blog post.
It would probably be best for me to think of a logical and polite way to convey my feelings, but I'm the type of person that says exactly what's on my mind...so here I go and I'm going to make this quick.
I HATE the term nappy especially when it's used in a derogatory way. In comparison to pretty biracial curls, "nappy" hair must be ugly, right?
Well let me tell you something, I have "NAPPY" hair and it's BEAUTIFUL!!
Honestly, people viewing more tightly coiled hair as ugly/not beautiful MUST stop. It disgusts me. Yeah, I know, the more European features one has, the better? NOT! This mental slavery, aftermath of slavery or colonialism, European standard of beauty, etc..is disheartening and not only does it affect those who have "nappy" hair..it also affects those who have what some would call "good" hair. Don't even get me started on facial features and skin color because I can go on for days.
Anyway.....
Having looser curls doesn't make your hair any more beautiful than those with tight curls. Having straight hair doesn't make your hair any more beautiful than those with curly hair. And having curly hair doesn't make your hair any more beautiful than those with straight hair.
Your hair is not superior or inferior to anyone's because of the texture, length, thickness, etc.
LOVE your hair, but DO NOT insult others.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. ~Psalm 139:14
Ladies: Please do not be afraid to comment because of this post. I welcome all comments, but I do not tolerate ignorance such as this. We, as black people, have been taught to hate ourselves because of hair, skin color, facial features, body structure, etc. It's time for us to erase those teachings, promote self-love and embrace who we are.
ETA: To answer your question since I accidently deleted the comment....yes, it was really an accident.
You could mix this in your deep conditioners, apply as a hot oil treatment, use it after applying leave-in conditioner, or use it to seal in moisture after moisturizing your hair.